Gail & Judy

Certified Professional Coaches

APSATS Certified Partner Coaches

Alone, and desperate for connection, we found each other while attending a twelve-step program, in a group for co-dependent women---which is definitely not the place for a woman who has been sexually betrayed (we didn’t know then, but know now that this is not a co-dependency issue. This is trauma). That connection was the beginning of our relationship. We had safety, validation and support in each other. It didn’t take long until we realized we needed a different kind of group. After researching and educating ourselves, we realized there was no “fit” for us, there were no groups in our community, or even on the internet, where we could go and feel heard and understood. This is what propelled us to start our first group for sexually betrayed women. That was five years ago. Since then, we’ve led numerous groups, and met hundreds of amazing women (from college students, stay at home moms, to high level professionals and everything in between). We’ve had the privilege of watching so many of them get well. What was once our greatest fear has now become our greatest passion… from being alone, to finding safe connection, reaching others through leading groups, and now beginning our coaching journey where we hope to help so many more women. We are beyond grateful that God has called us, equipped us and is sending us on this mission. 

" Listen. People start to heal the moment they feel heard." - Cheryl Richardson

Gail Cassell, CPC, APSATS CPC

Co-Founder

First and foremost, I am the daughter of the King. I knew who God said I was, but never quite understood what that really meant.. but that was 37 years ago. Today, I know who I am, and whose I am. Worthy, chosen, loved, enough and more than enough. Betrayal no longer defines me—God does.


I am a mother of two daughters, a Mimi to three grandsons, and a wife of 42 years (through good, bad & betrayal). I like to ride motorcycles (yes! I am a Harley chick). I love the outdoors: walking, the mountains, the beach (although betrayal has changed what that looks like for me). Also, front porch sitting--whether it be coffee or happy hour--with the ladies in my life has been my “main thing”. It’s the place where lots of laughter and tears have been shed. I’ve led marriage groups, mentored many couples, worked with the youth and volunteered in many capacities in the church and public schools. But, my greatest love has been mentoring women—helping them to become all that they were created to be.


I am also a sexually betrayed partner. In the beginning, it was the deepest pain I ever felt and darkest place I’ve ever been. Two weeks after discovery, “D-Day”, I begged God to “use me” and I declared that I would not stay in that deep dark pit. Today, almost five years later, helping betrayed women has become my privilege and greatest passion. It’s no longer “I have to do this” ("this" being all the work it takes to get well), which is what I used to say with deep regret. But now I say, “I get to do this”. 


Thank you, Lord, for calling me, equipping me and sending me. I am on a mission to help one lady at a time to not only survive betrayal trauma, but to thrive and become more than anything she ever dreamed or imagined. I am now a certified professional coach, specialized in sexual betrayal trauma. I no longer live in darkness or fear, lies and deceit. I live in the light, in truth.. with courage and strength. I can offer you the same —a way forward, a new and better way with hope for your future. God has so much more for you than what has been done to you. You are worth the work. You deserve the outcome it will bring, and you will be better because of it. I always say, “when you know better, you do better”.


You may not believe this yet, but one day, you will come to believe and know that you are the daughter of the King. And when you do, you will insist on being treated as the royalty you are! 

Judy Gray, CPC, APSATS CPC

Co-Founder

Judy is an ICF professional coach member, certified professional coach and APSATS certified partner coach who is passionate about helping women and couples heal from sexual betrayal and the trauma it causes. With over 5 years of experience, she has become highly skilled and specialized in guiding clients through the difficulties that arise in the aftermath of betrayal.


Judy is a devout Christian and has found strength and solace in her faith during her own personal journey of healing and transformation. She believes that God has a purpose for the pain she's experienced and has dedicated her career to supporting others in their healing process. Judy offers supportive and compassionate coaching services that guide clients in rebuilding trust, establishing healthy boundaries, and finding a path to healing and growth that is centered around their own personal values and beliefs.


Judy lives in Southern Maryland with her 4 children and husband of 15 years. Outside of Jesus, spending quality time with her family is where her greatest source of peace, joy and gratitude is found.

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